Imposter Syndrome: The Confidence Thief in the Saddle

Ever found yourself in the warm-up ring, heart thumping, and wondering “What am I even doing here?” Your horse is gleaming, your training has been solid, but inside, that nagging voice pipes up: “They’re all better than me.” That, my friend, is imposter syndrome. And it’s sneakier than a fresh pony on a windy day.

What is Imposter Syndrome, Really?

Imposter syndrome is that inner gremlin that whispers you’re not good enough, despite all the proof that you are. It’s not about lacking skill or talent—it’s about feeling like a fraud even when you’re smashing it. It shows up in all sorts of ways: – You downplay your wins. – You fear being “found out.” – You’re convinced your success is just luck. – And don’t even get started on praise—it makes you feel awkward or undeserving. It doesn’t matter if you’re hacking out quietly or competing at BE or BD level—imposter syndrome isn’t fussy. It will sneak into your tack room, sit on your mounting block, and fill your head with self-doubt… if you let it.

Sound Familiar? You’re Not Alone. Here’s the thing: imposter syndrome is common. More riders than you realise feel this way—yes, even the ones confidently flying over fences or giving clinics. They just might be better at hiding it than talking about it. You are not the only one whose confidence has been sideswiped by that internal monologue of “I’m not good enough.” The good news is, it’s not permanent, and there are ways to challenge it.

Step One: Name It to Tame It

The moment you notice that self-doubt creeping in, pause. Label it: “Ah, that’s imposter syndrome talking.” Just recognising it for what it is puts you back in control. It’s like spotting a spook coming—you can’t stop it from happening, but you can sit deep, stay calm, and ride through.

Step Two: Feelings Aren’t Facts

Just because you feel like a fraud doesn’t mean you are one. Think back to your last achievement—big or small. Maybe you helped your horse load calmly. Maybe you entered your

first competition. Whatever it is, it didn’t happen by accident. You prepared. You showed up. You did the work. Start separating your emotional fog from actual evidence. You’ll find it harder and harder to believe the inner critic when the facts say otherwise.

Step Three: Build Your Cheer Squad

Riding can be lonely—especially when self-doubt creeps in. That’s why your people matter. Whether it’s a coach who sees your potential, a yard friend who reminds you how far you’ve come, or someone who simply says, “You’ve got this,” surround yourself with those who lift you. When you are paid a compliment, say “Thank you!” with a smile. Then notice how you feel having accepted it.

Step Four: Be Kind to Yourself

Perfection is for unicorns. (And even they probably trip over poles sometimes.) You will make mistakes. You will get things wrong. But that doesn’t make you an imposter—it makes you human.

Step Five: Flip the Script

Next time your inner critic says, “You’re going to mess this up,” respond with, “I’ve prepared. I’m learning. I’ve got tools.” It might feel awkward at first, but it’s a powerful way to retrain your thoughts.

Step Six: Celebrate Every Win

Keep a “brag file”—yes, really! Jot down your wins, compliments from your coach, breakthroughs with your horse, and anything else that made you proud.

Step Seven: Visualise the Rider You Want to Be

Close your eyes and imagine you, riding with calm confidence. Imagine that connection with your horse, that rhythm, that flow. The more clearly you see it, the more your brain believes it’s possible—and the more your actions follow.

Step Eight: Learn from Others

If you’re feeling like the only rider doubting yourself—spoiler alert: you’re not. Look around. Ask questions. Watch how others deal with setbacks.

Step Nine: Let Go of Perfect

Imposter syndrome thrives in perfectionism. Let it go. Focus instead on a growth mindset—learning, adapting, and improving bit by bit.

Step Ten: Stay Present

Mindfulness isn’t just for yoga retreats. It’s useful in the saddle, too. When your thoughts spiral, bring your focus back to your seat, your breath, your horse’s rhythm.

So, What Does This Mean for You?

You’re not a fraud. You’re not alone. And you absolutely belong in the saddle, on that course, in that lesson and most especially on the podium! Imposter syndrome may show up uninvited, but it doesn’t have to take the reins. By recognising it, challenging it, and reminding yourself of your worth, you get to ride with more clarity, more joy, and more confidence. So next time that voice says, “You don’t deserve this,” you can smile, take a breath, and say, “Watch me.” Ride forward. You’ve earned your place.

Author: Alison Sandford-Gent https://rblcoaching.co.uk/ Come find me on socials @ridingbeyondlimitscoaching